How to get out of the victim-zone.
Today I want to tell you about a strange thing that changed my life. That happened the day I understood that I was a victim!
I was a victim in my own life. I had lived for decades, as a victim. (And I still do, when I am not to conscious about it.) Cause it is SO easy to fall into that trap. And stay there.
I must also say I have lived a good life so I am not talking being a victim for a big crime, but more being a selfmade victim. And there are so many of us.
We are often victims for the smaller issues in life, like having to do the dishes or get up first with the kids every Sunday.
If things like this makes us a victim, I am sure we really become victims if we get sick og have an accident.
It is all about attitude
I have talked with people, and read a lot about people, who have made a huge shift in their lives. Do you know when that shift often has occurred?
After being at the bottom!
When people have nothing more to loose they dare to take chances. They often see what really matters in life. What is the major things to talk about?
Where is your focus?
Well, maybe things showes up because you wanted them to show up?
WHAT! Are you saying I ordered cancer???
I´m not sure. But, what if?
What in that situation have made you learned a lesson you wanted to learn?
Now we come into the big questions in life:
- Who are we?
- Why are we here?
- When are we going to leave?
I will cover that later 🙂
But, the thing is, I had to come a bit down the ladder to understand that this life is MY responsibility! No one else.
When I realized that, I made a shift. But, still it took me years to figure out that even though I was trying to take responsibility for my own life, I was still a victim in many cases.
The High Flying Disc
Have you seen the intervju between Wayne Dyer and Esther Hicks / Abraham?
It is called “Co-Creation at its Best”. If not, go get it right away ! It is just AWESOME!
There they talk about getting on”The High Flying Disc”. Meaning, get up where you are in a good vibration. Where you feel good! It is your responsibility to be there. You owe it to yourself, to your kids and family and everyone around you.
If you are not on a”The High Flying Disc” how can you learn your kids to be there?
And don´t you want the best for your kids?
We all want our kids to have the best in life. But how are they going to get there if we do not take responsebility and get there ourself first? We have to lead by excample. Kids are really good at getting this with “The High Flying Disc”. They see it right away. Explain a 4 or 6 years old the law of attraction, and they get it instantly. But, we are afraid to tell them about it, because we do not find it so easy to belive, do we?
Well, one thing is for sure.
If you are feeling good, more good will come your way.
If you talk negative about others, you will assume other do the same. It will give you a bad feeling. Bad feelings will not get you on”The High Flying Disc”.
If you are a victim you are also far away from “The High Flying Disc”.
So, take responsebility. Get out of your victim zone. If you are living in a unhealthy relationship, get out! If you are having kids, and are in a unhealthy relationship GET OUT!!! Think about what you teach your children.
If they learn that even if life is miserable, you stay where you are, is that what your want your kids to do?
Take whatever that comes your way. Be a victim. Or take responsibility for your own life, and get out!
To put it this way: If you are in an unhealthy relationship, what advice would you give your best friend in a similar situation? Or your daugher?
You can NEVER be a victim unless you decide to be one.
And you can NEVER be a victim being on “The High Flying Disc”
You can be in charge of your life at ALL time. You have choices! You can pick the feeling that suits you. Even if the surroundings are not good, it is still your attitude who will determine how to deal with it. Ask people who have been prisoners under a war.
So, if we are prisoners during war, or selfmade prisoners in our own life, we have to take responsibility. NEVER feel like a victim. There is always something to learn. There are always new decisions to be made. Just make sure you are in control of your own life. Doing what is best for you. Your life and your thoughts are your responsibility. And so is your attitude.
So, go out there and live fully, laugh loud and love with passion.
Love yourself and take action for a good life! You are the one who is in charge! Always!
If you need help along the way, do not hesitate to contact me.
And, please leave a comment. I love that ! 🙂
Live, Laugh, Love